When you’re trying to be productive, everyone tells you to make a to-do list. But how about a “did list” instead? All the things you ACTUALLY ACCOMPLISHED? Can that be a thing? Cuz I’m starting one regardless.
See here’s the thing…over the past nine months, I’ve been trying to juggle the craziness that comes with being a stay-at-home mom, managing a blog, managing a YouTube channel, feeding myself and my child, all while trying to keep up with the never ending amounts of laundry.
So to keep me on track, I started creating to-do lists in my Day Designer and for a while, that kept me somewhat sane. It kept me focused and organized, but it also left me feeling like crap most days.
When 5pm rolled around, I typically found myself upset and defeated. I just didn’t get everything done that I had hoped for. So I felt like a failure. I felt like the day had gone by and I hadn’t accomplished anything.
I still had so much left to tackle on my very ambitious to-do list, and since everything didn’t get crossed off, I basically missed the mark.
But the crazy thing was that I actually did a shit ton of work every single day!
I woke up
Made her breakfast
Fed her breakfast
Ate something myself
Cleaned the dishes
Washed her bottles
Vacuumed cat food off the floor
Threw in a load of laundry
Made the bed
Took a shower
Got quotes for the fence we’re installing in the backyard
Wrote a blog post
Edited a YouTube video
Filmed a YouTube video
Worked on my blog course
Sent out 5 e-mails
Folded the laundry
Changed 52 thousand diapers (give or take a few)
Fed Riley her lunch
Made myself lunch
Got Riley to nap twice
Listened to a podcast
Posted on Instagram
and the list goes on
See what I mean? Despite the crazy amount of work I somehow managed to pack into a single day between the screeches and whines of my 9 month old, I still felt like I wasn’t good enough. I still felt like I hadn’t completed all the things I need to accomplish.
So screw that to-do list.
From now on, I’m making a did list.
I’m making a did list every single day to document all the things I freaking did.
Because it’s a lot.
Whether you’re working full-time or staying home with your little babes, us mamas – we do so damn much.
And I need to remind myself of that more often.
I need to be better about giving myself the grace to do what I can – and be okay if there’s still a bunch left to do.
There are only so many hours in the day, and for every one thing we cross off our to-do list, 3 more things will pop up – I’m sure of it.
Kind of like what they say about gray hairs.
So next time you’re reaching for your notebook to write your to-do list, I challenge you instead to write a did list.
Then try to tell yourself you got nothing accomplished.
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