Advice For All Of Us Feeling Lost In Our Twenties

Life isn’t exactly what it looks like in the movies. It’s not always  grand and full of parties…pretty people…pretty things.

Life is hard.

It forces us to make decisions that we never thought we’d have to make.

It’s dirty sometimes. People get hurt. And you hurt people.

Sometimes you feel utterly alone. Like you could just run away and no one would care.

You’re constantly chasing something, but you don’t always know what that something is. It’s confusing.

Sometimes you’re filled with with so much anxiety. You cry for no reason. You consider taking meds, but you don’t have enough money to pay for them.

You wonder. You wonder about people you used to know. What are they up to now? Are they happy?

You think about all the good times you spent with your ex. Did you make the right decision breaking up with them? How would your life be different if you hadn’t?  Again, you cry.

Because there’s absolutely no roadmap. You have no idea what’s next. Where are you supposed to go from here? What’s you path? What’s your purpose?

Why can’t you just go back to first period English class? Life was simple then. You had friends. You had direction. You were working towards something- the real world.

But now you’ve come to find that being in the real world is like being dropped out of an airplane in the middle of some crazy vast open field with no phone, no GPS.

It sucks, and It’s up to you to find your way.

You’re constantly second guessing your decisions, because you’re scared of nothing more than getting lost.

You want more than what this life has to offer sometimes, and it drives you absolutely mad.

You want the sun. You want to go places, experience things. Great things. Adventurous and dangerous things.

But  most of the time, work and bills and life in general get in the way of that.

So you feel stuck.

And you feel suffocated.

And you can’t breathe.

Life will feel that way. Sometimes, it’ll feel that way a lot.

But this life of ours, it’s the most overwhelmingly beautiful thing, and you need to remember that. Always.

So learn to breathe and be present. Because if not, you’ll miss it, and you’ll be so sad that you did.

Run as fast as you can towards anything and everything that makes you feel alive. Everything that makes you feel whole.

Use your talents.

Help other people.

Smile even when you feel that all hope is lost. Because it never it.

Open your heart to everyone you meet, and live a gracious life.

Be grateful for everything you have, because there’s always someone out there who’d kill for your life.

Taste everything. Feel everything.


See things, talk to strangers. Share all of your stories.

Cry and laugh and stay up all night. Sleep in the next day.

Take time to be outside in nature and roll around in the dirt. Stay outside in the rain and appreciate just how powerful and gorgeous thunder is.


Fiction and non-fiction.

Create your own stories and write them down for everyone to see.

Give everything you have of your soul.

Sing and dance until you’re physically exhausted. Make those memories.

Because as hard as life is sometimes, and as much as you sometimes just want to run away and never come back, you only get one life.

And you can make it as terrible or as f-ing amazing as you want to.

That’s the truth of it.

Make the best out of all the cards you’re dealt. I promise you, you’ll thank yourself 50 years from now.

Follow your heart, and don’t be afraid to do things that scare you shitless.

Those are usually the best things.

The things that push you….

The things that take you to exactly where you need to be.

So love your life, and live it with reckless abandon.

Everything will be ok.

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  1. Courtney

    July 23, 2015 at 11:26 am

    Thank you. I needed to read this today. I’ve been battling burnout and am left feeling lost, something this over-achieving Type A, Gen Y girl has never felt before. At heart I’m a dreamer and know that God has a bigger plan for my life than I have for myself. I’m at a crossroads and for the first time in my life am not sure which way to go. But it’s not a matter if going one way or another. It’s a matter of following my heart and letting life happen no matter how beautiful or challenging.

    1. Erin

      December 21, 2017 at 11:57 pm

      So true. I agree with you Courtney! I felt the same way with you.

  2. Courtney

    July 23, 2015 at 11:29 am

    This is amazing! I won’t be out of college for another three years,and I’ve always been terrified thinking about my twenties after college. With this,it’s a little less scary 🙂

  3. Cole

    July 23, 2015 at 11:53 am

    Beautiful post! One I can relate to. Now in my mid-twenties I still feel lost, when I thought by now I would have my sh*t together. All those things I thought I would accomplish by now still seem years away. Still in school, still renting, still broke. I know I’m not alone though, a lot of my friends and peers feel the same way. And yet, like you mentioned, you still have to make the best of it and continue making memories.

  4. Sara Strand

    July 23, 2015 at 12:10 pm

    My mom used to always tell me that your 20’s are the worst. Then I, of course, told her she had no idea what she was talking about, they were supposed to be the best. As it turns out, she was totally right. I’m now 33 and I enjoy my thirties FAR MORE than my twenties. By far. I got married, bought a house, had two babies and more in my twenties and I wouldn’t give that up. But now I’m 33 and I feel far more confident in life, I feel much more sure, and I’ve got another baby. Which I am enjoying a lot more. So it’s all just temporary. It truly does get better.

  5. Missy

    July 23, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    All of this is so true and speaks to me on a deep level–especially the crying for no reason because of daily anxiety. It’s important to step back and look at the bigger picture because, like you said, hope is never lost.
    Thanks for sharing.

  6. Angie

    July 23, 2015 at 1:05 pm

    Great advice. I think it’s super easy to feel this way in your twenties-it’s like a transitional period. You can’t rely on your parents anymore but you don’t quite feel like you can rely on yourself yet either. lol

  7. Cori from The Blog Love Project

    July 23, 2015 at 3:27 pm

    Yeah, this was my early twenties pretty much (27). Some days, it still is my life. We do A LOT of growing in our twenties and does anyone else feel like we’re bring made to rush through this decade of our lives to complete some cosmic check list.

    1. Kayla Cruz

      July 23, 2015 at 6:15 pm

      Cosmic check list… yep, you’re definitely right about that. We’re being made to rush through this decade and why??? Doesn’t make any sense. We really need to just sit back and enjoy it. Everything in due time my friend. Thanks so much for stopping by! Enjoy the rest of your week 🙂

  8. Lisa @ Strum Simmer Sip

    July 23, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    Thanks for the inspiration lady. 20s are tough..I’ve grown so much and have faced so many tough life decisions, but it’s all part of being an adult. I feel like a totally different person now that I’m in my late twenties vs. where I was in my early twenties. It’s nice to read posts like these to take a step back and appreciate things!

    ♥ Lisa
    strum simmer sip

    1. Kayla Cruz

      July 23, 2015 at 6:13 pm

      Glad you liked, girl! It’s amazing how much we can change in just a short period of time. I’m about to be 25 and when I think about the stuff I was doing when I was 21, I just cringe! Maturity is a beautiful thing! Love your blog, btw! Keep up the great work! xoxox, Kayla

  9. Addie

    July 24, 2015 at 9:58 am

    Beautiful advice at the end. It’s about moving forward, conquering your fears and living your life to the fullest!

  10. Clarisse Rivers

    May 24, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    I Read this and it explains how I feel to the T. Sometimes it helps to read how others were also lost but found a way, but sometimes there is no way. Sometimes people just keep you where you at for their own needs and not push you but then you have to push yourself. Feeling lost is an awful feeling , feeling stuck feeling just dead even though you’re breathing is the worst. I try looking on the bright side but it only shines light on the bad so sometimes in the dark is the best place to hide.

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