Oh hi. Where did 2018 go? When you figure that out, please let me know. K? Thanks.
In all seriousness, I think I say this every damn year. The year flies by and at the end of it, I’m left feeling a bit at a loss.
On one end, I feel like I accomplished so much. I survived my first year as a parent and watched my beautiful baby girl grow in ways that still amaze me to this day. #ImadeIt
I kept her alive and happy and that in and of itself is such an accomplishment.
But on the other end, I feel like I’m trying to hit the reverse button. Trying to rewind time so I can fit in so many of the hundreds of other things I’ve been wanting to do lately.
So with the new year around the corner, I thought it’d be appropriate to set a few resolutions.
Goals, ambitions, resolutions, call them whatever you want, but I think they’re things we could all benefit from.
An intentional life.
Filled with less scrolling through apps, and more things that bring us joy.
So without further adieu, here are 10 intentional living resolutions to put into practice this coming year. Read them, study them, and then let me know down below which ones you’ll be focusing on this year!
1. Read More Books
I love to read. I’ve been a book worm for years, and I honestly believe that there’s no better way to spend your time than to consume words and stories. To learn from others – from their failures and success. To take in different perspectives.
Fiction, non-fiction, whichever you prefer, I think there’s value in all of it. Because you wanna know something? A book can change your life. It can deliver the exact message you’ve been needing at the very moment you need it most, and that my friends, is pure magic.
BTW, if you struggle with having time to read, try Audible. Listen on the way to work, or in the shower – because last time I checked, everyone I know finds time for a shower (at least every couple days). Try it free for 30 days here and you’ll get 2 free audiobooks to get started.
2. Control Your Time
Speaking of struggling with finding time to do things, most days, my calendar seems to escape me. I start off with the best of intentions and before I know it, I’ve accomplished nothing on my to-do list (which is why I’ve started making “did lists” instead – read more about that here).
Time is a funny thing, though. It’s constant. It’s always going. Tick. Tock. Can’t get it back.
It causes me so much anxiety sometimes.
But in a weird way, although we can’t quite stop it, I do think we can cause it to expand.
Hear me out.
When we have no plan with our time, it’s so easy to waste it all away. I’m the first one to admit I’ll spend hours scrolling through Instagram aimlessly looking at photos of people I have no interest in connecting with. Then I’ll wonder why I can’t seem to get anything done.
I also multi-task all day and get distracted.
I try to do too many things all at once and in the end, I often wind up doing nothing.
So rather than letting time control us, I challenge us all to control it instead.
Be intentional with how you’re spending your time.
Be intentional with whom you’re spending it.
Whether that means planning your day out hour-by-hour in your Day Designer or setting timers for specific tasks, focus on what you’re actually trying to accomplish, and when you’re done with that, move on to the next.
3. Practice Gratitude Daily
If you’re reading this right now, you have something to be grateful for. You have a phone or a computer, also, you have eyeballs.
You have the ability to take time out of your day to read this, and that’s a luxury not afforded to everyone on this planet.
So regardless of how shitty you feel that life is right now…whatever you’re going through…this coming year, take time to practice gratitude.
4. Manifest Your Deepest Desires
This past year I finally started to pay attention to the power of manifestation. The power of setting intentions and making things happen.
But long story short, I believe in manifestation. I really really do. I believe that like energy attracts like energy and that positive thoughts and actions bring forth positive results.
So this year, I challenge us all to partake in a little manifestation of our own. What do we really want out of life? What’s something you’ve been wanting to achieve? Really think about that.
How will you feel when you get all the things you’ve ever wanted?
Will you feel happy? At peace? Successful?
What does that even look like for you?
Does it mean kids? A relationship? Travel? Becoming the senior VP at a company? Working from home? Working from a beach somewhere while sipping a few cocktails?
Craft a crystal clear picture of yourself living your best damn life and tell yourself you’re gunna get there.
Make it happen.
But you have to believe in your ability to do it, first.
And if you can truly deeply believe that you’re capable of it, that’s more than half the battle, babe.
5. Quit Comparing Yourself
I wrote this post five years ago. I titled it, Twentysomething Comparisonitis. Five years ago I believed that a lot of us were severely depressed with our lives and that it had a lot to do with how we’re constantly comparing ourselves, and guess what? It’s still true today.
Why do we torture ourselves like this? Why do we feel the need to look at someone else’s life and think that ours is worse or better than theirs?
Our lives are our own. They’re different. And thank God for that because otherwise the world would be so freaking boring.
It’s so cliche but the only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person you were yesterday, and if you’re making progress, that’s something to be so damn proud of.
So quit with the comparison game. Love your life. And if scrolling through social media makes you feel bad about your life for even a second, shit – I give you permission to delete it.
I’ll be the first one to admit that I suck at this. Between working from home, taking care of a one year old, and endless amounts of laundry and trying to make sure my baby doesn’t touch the electrical outlets, I’m freaking drained.
I’m always exhausted, and on the days when Jesus himself sends over a miracle and I have 5 minutes to myself, I usually spend it watching YouTube or the inside of my eyelids.
But when was the last time you just PLAYED? When was the last time you ran outside or threw a ball?
When was the last time you built a fort or made s’mores or did a puzzle or just playedddd??
It’s so important for our souls to find our inner kid sometimes. Our inner kid that’s been lost beneath piles of bills and doctor’s appointments and all the other not-so-fun adulting kind of stuff, am I right?
So if you need somewhere to start, here’s a book I recommend. I challenge you to doing at least 3 of the activities she writes about this year – I think that’s totally doable.
7. Take Care Of Your Body
Until we figure shit out like they did in Westworld, we’ve only got one body… so yea, I think it goes without saying that we need to take care of it. We ought to try to eat better, drink more water, and exercise, no matter how much it freaking sucks.
Ok ok, it doesn’t suck for EVERYONE, but I’m like the laziest human on the planet, and after a long day of doing everything else I’ve already mentioned, girl, the LAST thing I wanna do is slice a zucchini and do cardio.
But in all seriousness, be kind to your body. You’re stuck with it for the long haul and how you treat your body today will play a huge part in how you feel 30 years from now.
8. Take Care Of Your Mind
When we think about our health, we usually think about what I just talked about. Eating better, exercising, scheduling those yearly doctor’s visits. But there’s so much more that goes into our health, so in 2019, make taking care of your mental health a priority.
Whatever it is that you’re going through, whatever anxieties or fears or worries you have, know that you’re not alone. But even better… know that you don’t have to DEAL WITH IT alone.
Find someone to talk to. Seek out a professional. Do what you gotta do, but make sure it’s at the top of your list.
Because you can’t tackle any other goals if you’re not feeling your best mentally.
So be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace.
Give your mind the space and the downtime it needs to recharge.
Trust me – it’s important.
9. Help Others
There are so many people in need in this world. And here we are – complaining about the Instagram algorithm because OMG our lives would be over if we had to tap instead of scroll (yea, I’m calling myself out too!)
But for real – think about it. We have so many amazing things in our lives. We’re blessed. But whether we know them personally or not, there are people who really need help. People who are sick. People who are homeless. Kids who don’t get enough to eat. People with real problems. Not the first world kind that we always joke about.
So this year, let’s help them, k? This year, let’s set aside $50 that we’d normally spend on the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale and do some real good.
Let’s donate stuff we don’t need anymore. Let’s volunteer. Let’s help our neighbor instead of rushing inside and hoping they don’t see us.
Community is one of my guiding words for 2019 and I think the world would be a better place if more of us would take on that word, too.
10. Embrace The Joy Of Doing Nothing
Despite the fact that most New Year’s resolutions consist of figuring out what we want to do more of – reading more, writing more, getting out there more, traveling more, etc. etc. etc. – I think there’s also a place for resolving to do nothing.
Now I’m not saying to be a lazy bum and have zero ambitions. I’m not saying to spend the whole year on the couch under the covers eating popcorn while watching Netflix (even though man, that sounds pretty bomb right about now).
What I AM saying is that we should slow down. And yes, every once in a while, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing nothing. With just being. With sitting outside and listening to the sound of cars and birds and just breathing.
Our lives are go-go-go 24/7 and society has made us believe that the hustle and bustle that comes with that lifestyle is the only true measure of success.
Oh, you’re working until 11pm three times a week? You’re killing it. You’ll be running the show in no time.
You don’t eat lunch because you’re so busy with meetings?
Man, you must be so important.
The irony of all that just kills me.
Yes, we need to work hard. Success is not given. It’s earned. But we also need to take a breather. We need to slow down, enjoy life, and understand that not every single minute of the day has to be planned out or have a check mark associated with it.
Doing nothing gives us space.
It gives us perspective.
And it gives our minds the freedom to wander and flourish – and that’s what I wish for every single one of you this coming year.
So happy new year, my friends!
I hope this list helps you craft your most intentional year yet.
2019 is already beautiful, and it’s only getting started.