A Book For Every Twenty-Something: 101 Secrets for Your Twenties

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Paul Angone, creator of All Groan Up, just released his first book… 101 Secrets for Your Twenties.

I’ve been following Paul’s blog for a while now, so when I heard about his book, I knew I had to read it ASAP.

Because he’s awesome.

So I DID read it and I’m really glad that I did. I only wish that I had read this 3 years ago…that would have been great.

Below are a few of my favorite “secrets” from the book, and how I feel about them.

#2: The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you’re not willing to be embarrassed, you’re probably not willing to be great.

In order to be great, you’re going to have to take risks. And when you take risks, it’s likely that you’ll fail. And when you fail, it can be really embarrassing. It sucks, I know. But on the flip side, the complete opposite can happen. You can NOT fail and achieve awesome things. So understand this going into any situation and embrace it. Understand that the possibility for embarrassment and greatness go hand-in-hand. And usually, that potential for embarrassment is totally worth it.

#4: Your 20s are about having the courage to write a frightful first draft.

Did you understand what you just read? FIRST draft. Not FINAL PUBLISHED draft. When we’re in our twenties, we tend to think that everything will be perfect. Especially those of us OCD over-achievers.We’re going to graduate college and land our dream jobs and have everything figured out. But that’s not how it happens. In our twenties we just start working on these things. It’s a first draft. Our lives will be tweaked and reviewed and edited to perfection. But that takes time…and it’s okay.

#6: Life will never feel like it’s supposed to.

If there’s one thing that I struggle with, it’s this. I really shouldn’t have watched so many Disney movies growing up. I really shouldn’t have watched ANY movies growing up. Growing up, we’re exposed to movies and books and songs that fool us into believing that life is supposed to feel a certain way. And then, when life doesn’t turn out to be as awesome as we thought it’d be, we’ve severely disappointed. When we find ourselves not working at Facebook or Google, we feel like we’ve somehow failed. But life will never feel like it’s “supposed to”, because there IS NO “supposed to”, because there’s no ONE way to live life. So give up that fantasy and you’ll be a whole lot happier.

#34: Sometimes the most proactive thing you can do is De-Plug.

Turn it off. Everything. Phone. Computer. Ipad. Ipod. Everything. Go take a nap.

You need some time to be alone with your thoughts. You need some time to think. Or not think. Whatever you want to do. Sometimes you just need to unwind so that you can rest and catch up. And when you do this, you’ll find yourself with a lot more energy.

#36: Your 20s might be less about finding out what you want to do, and more about finding what you DO NOT want to do.

You don’t know exactly what you want to do. Congratulations! Welcome to the club. I am the president. I may not have an exact idea of what I want to do, but I definitely have an idea of the kinds of things I DO NOT want to do. And I’ve learned that over the course of the past four years. With every job that I’ve taken, I’ve come closer to understanding what I want to do with my life. But I’ve only understood that by trying different things. By experimenting with different opportunities, I’ve discovered that there are a certain things that I DO NOT LIKE and DO NOT WANT TO DO. And for that, I am thankful.

So try things. Try lots of things. And figure out if you like them. Every time you discover something that you DON’T like, you’re that much closer to narrowing down your interests and figuring out what you DO want to do.

If you want to read more secrets, you can buy Paul’s book on Amazon or at Barnes & Noble.

I’m not even kidding. Every 20-something needs this book! So if you know anyone in their twenties, buy it for them. If you have no money or just don’t like them enough to spend money on them, tell them about it. Because it’ll make a difference in their life!

When we’re in our twenties, we kind of have no clue what we’re doing.

That’s obvious.


Paul is a great writer who offers down-to-earth, no-BS advice for anyone who’s feeling a little lost and confused.

So do yourself a favor and take the time to read it.

It’s a quick read, and could very likely save you years of therapy.

And in case you’re not aware, therapy is VERY expensive.

***Paul and his publisher have been nice enough to host a give-away of the book on this site. Leave a comment below for a chance to win a free copy of 101 Secrets for Your Twenties.

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  1. Kevs

    July 15, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Thanks for this! It helped me. 🙂 I’m in my 20th, so it fits me. 😀

  2. S and the City

    July 15, 2013 at 9:59 am

    At aged 22 and in a job I’m utterly confused about, this book sounds perfect for me! Thanks for the heads up Kayla!

  3. Vi

    July 15, 2013 at 10:05 am

    Hi Kayla! I love reading your blog. You should post more often 🙂

    This year I turn 21 so this book would be perfect for me. And I completely understand your feelings #6. I’m an over-achiever myself but chuckled at #2 since I’ve found that to be completely true. Over the years I’ve developed the confidence to take some risks and it has led to some great results. I’m working in the internship of a lifetime in Hong Kong (read about it at http://www.helloiminhongkong.wordpress.com) and although I really enjoy it for the time being, I’ve been learning that the pressure of that work environment is not really for me. So, #36. I believe I’ve found what I really want to do but I have yet to test that passion in a real job so here’s to the future!

  4. EvolvedLove

    July 15, 2013 at 10:26 am

    I’m 20 also, would love a chance to get this book for free. (; Adding it to my Amazon wishlist!!

  5. Jessica

    July 15, 2013 at 10:38 am

    #6: Life will never feel like it’s supposed to.

    I WISH more people had told me that. Even though you’re out on your own, you never really feel like a “grown-up” and that can be very unsettling.

    Oh, and at 28, I still have no idea what I want to do. And that’s ok. 🙂

  6. zengulism

    July 15, 2013 at 12:11 pm

    I love books like this. I think it’s great that people want to share their tips with others so they can learn from them. I love tip #34, because it’s so true. It’s a scary thing to de-plug, but it’s also very rewarding.

  7. millennialonthemove

    July 15, 2013 at 12:49 pm

    I can’t wait to download this for vacation next week! Number 6 really resonates for me and it’s something I’m trying to work on and be aware of. But it’s tough! Can’t wait to read what else Paul has to share 🙂

  8. flowry

    July 15, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    Hi Kayla this is so awesome of you. I’m 22 and graduated college on top of a health problem! I could use this book in my downtime before I start out in the “real world.” Keep on writing these refreshing posts :).

  9. thejourneythatmatters

    July 15, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    You always have great posts, I love reading them! They are very insightful but very unique. These lessons are great though. I especially enjoy #36. I use to think that I had things figured out but now I know I was just fooling myself. I can’t wait to read this book.

  10. Nick (@ayoungpro)

    July 15, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    Great write-up Kayla! Paul’s book is great!

  11. Katie Robinson

    July 15, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    I love this book too! And am so glad I read it 🙂 I post my review tomorrow! You should check it out. We have some of the same favorite secrets 🙂

  12. My Camera, My Friend

    July 15, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    Sounds like a great book. I’ll have to read it. You’re right, in our twenties we have no idea what we’re doing. We’re just old enough and educated enough to realize how much we don’t know.

  13. Ellie

    July 16, 2013 at 1:10 am

    saving this for reading it later! sounds like a helpful read! 🙂

  14. rosyposy08

    July 16, 2013 at 10:43 am

    My biggest problem out of those is probably #6. I guess it’s just the fear of the unknown that makes it difficult to deal with. Great post! 🙂

  15. yawriterinthemaking

    July 16, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    # 32 Fits me perfectly. My sister has been trying to get me out of my comfort zone before I even entered my twenties! Reading this advice makes me feel a little less afraid to do so 🙂

  16. yawriterinthemaking

    July 16, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    Whoops, I actually meant #2 when referring to the advice, sorry.

  17. Quirky Little Planet

    July 16, 2013 at 6:01 pm

    Im 30 and i still haven’t figured it out!

  18. Nneka Illonah

    July 16, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    I have 5 more years left until I turn 30. Help me out please!!
    Would LOVE to read the book.

  19. Paul | All Groan Up

    July 16, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    Thanks Kayla for this amazing review. An honor coming from you…

  20. Ian

    July 16, 2013 at 11:19 pm

    This line sold me: “I only wish that I had read this 3 years ago…that would have been great.”

  21. alotlikelaura

    July 28, 2013 at 3:25 am

    Sounds amazing ! Love to buy the book if I don’t win a copy 🙂

  22. rachelmeeks

    August 8, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    I was just fired from my “dream job” and at the same time I realized that it’s not what I want to do at all… so reading this really made me feel a lot better!

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